You’re Gonna Get Your Feelers Hurt: Love Is In The Air….Not So Much.

3 Mar

Love and hate is in the air, Kittens! The sun is out, the flowers are blooming and every one is shedding their winter parkas, getting down to date weight and kicking their over cooked relationships to the curb. Ouch! There are more feelers in the air than there are allergens and everyone seems to be kicking it into Spring cleaning mode just a little too early. Can’t we at least get a tan on Spring Break first? Have it your way, Kittens, let’s answer some hate mail and spread some butt hurt around the interwebs. But I warn you… you’re gonna get your feelers hurt.

My boyfriend is starting to lose his hair right up front. Should I bring it up and offer to help him?

Is your goal to be single? Then yes. If you love this dude and care about his ego and feelers, then no. Hell no! Do you seriously You Cant Control Everything_ Your Hair think he doesn’t obsess over that already? You can bet while he is staring at his hairline in the bathroom mirror that he is also cursing his over use of his college baseball cap and his bad deal from the gene pool. He is also  considering selling a kidney to get a platinum membership to  Hair Club for Men. How would you feel if he let you know that your posterior  has hail damage, your boobs are sagging or your lady area isn’t what it used to be? These are all things you would be acutely aware of already, things you hope no one else on the planet will notice. If he so much as hinted at these issues to you- you would no doubt spin into a tornado of hate, vinegar and claws. If he ever brings up his hair (BIG IF) then be cool about it, let him know he is still the sexy beast you fell for, that you hadn’t noticed but if he feels like taking some sort of action that you will support him and keep that little secret to yourself. BAM! Instant best girlfriend ever.

My wife and I have been married for 5 years and we have two children. We have not been intimate in over a year and I attributed it to kids, work, schedules, etc.  Recently I discovered that she has been looking at singles groups, messaging with men and even texting them.  She won’t be intimate with me yet she can talk to a strangers like this? Do I consider us done and move on?

Tell your wife that you have seen her activity but refrain from being angry, making threats,  etc. Let her know you love her and Ill love you forever or until I get bored 7.25.12that her behavior hurts you, makes you sad and makes you feel rejected. Let her know it chips away your trust and that it is unacceptable to you for your partner to have steamy interweb chats much less cruising single’s sites. Let her know you would like to rebuild your relationship and step one is that she must stop the emotional cheating… because that is what she is doing. She is seeking,  and getting , special places and intimate feeling attention from someone other than the one she promised to share that part of her with. Cruising a dating site , and then communicating with people on that site, is unacceptable for anyone in a committed relationship. Period. If she says no to stopping her behavior, hedges in anyway or tries to tell you it’s harmless fun- then she has chosen to ignore your feelings and you must decide for yourself if you can live with it or if you need to move on. Life is too short to love like that.

My daughter is getting married for the second time. She wants another traditional wedding, white dress and all! She already has children and wants them IN the wedding! I think a low-key affair would be best and also in good taste. 

I don’tYou Are About To Exceed The Limits Of My Medication 7.11.12 know who your daughter’s Maid of Honor is- but I hope she reads this then sits you down and tells you, “It’s not your wedding! It’s not your wedding! It’s not your wedding!”. Is there a law somewhere that says she can’t have a white dress? Are you afraid she will dirty it up? I really, REALLY, hope you don’t say these feelings out loud to her. Because they really smack of you judging her, that maybe you think she is less than pure and worthy and maybe a tad bit of jealousy. Is it possible that her Groom To Be makes her feel shiny and new? Maybe she has found “Her Person” and wants to celebrate big and make sure her babies feel loved, accepted and included by his family. Or maybe this is just her preference. Whatever her reasons are, she is your daughter, and you need to smile, be happy, support her, cry over her fantasy dress when you see her in it and protect her from nasty comments like the ones you just made.  PS It’s not your wedding.

Am I wrong , Kittens? Sound off below!

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6 Responses to “You’re Gonna Get Your Feelers Hurt: Love Is In The Air….Not So Much.”

  1. Mom on the Verge April 17, 2013 at 7:19 PM #

    Seriously, parents paying for huge frothy weddings is totally optional. If the mom already shelled out $30K for the first wedding, she shouldn’t be expected to mortgage the house to do it again. How many times should she be expected to do this, anyway? Parents are not required to pony up for ANY weddings, really.

    If the daughter is paying for it, I’m still ambivalent. The internet has spawned such an explosion in wedding complexity and cost that it really should be ashamed of itself. A wedding is a day to celebrate an eternal bond of love. Right? Froth is optional, at the discretion of whomever is paying for it. I just hate to see couples starting out with a huge pile of debt — $10K for the ring and $30K for the wedding.

    • Honey Badger Press July 6, 2013 at 10:46 AM #

      I see your point. Mom wasn’t paying for the wedding, though. I’m ambivalent on weddings as well. Do what you want on your day but don’t muck up the festivities of someone elses with judgements. Mine was perfect with a $70 leopard print dress, Ding Dongs served on doilies as the cake , rotisserie chicken from Sam’s and a small group of amazing friends and family in our friend’s backyard who toasted us with whiskey shots and whatever they brought in their coolers.

  2. aud3lee March 5, 2013 at 2:20 PM #

    As long as the daughter doesn’t expect the father to PAY for this, her second wedding, I’d say daddy should keep his opinions to himself.

    • Honey Badger Press March 5, 2013 at 9:54 PM #

      It’s her Mom. And even if her Mom was paying for the wedding…. it’s still not her wedding. It’s the daughter’s big day.If you are going to give the gift of financial support to someone – that doesn’t mean you get to dictate it’s use. Then it’s not a gift… if a hostage situation.

    • greg March 8, 2013 at 4:38 AM #

      Yup totally agree…
      Greg

  3. Site Admin March 4, 2013 at 7:49 AM #

    It’s not their wedding… IT’S MY WEDDING, BITCHES! Yay. That is all. Dress shopping countdown commences. Woot!

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